HYPNOTHERAPY FOR CHILDREN

FEARS AND PHOBIAS / STRESS / EXAM PRESSURE / BAD HABITS / NAIL BITING/ EATING ISSUES/ LOW SELF ESTEEM / BULLYING ISSUES / ANGER / AUDITION CONFIDENCE / SCHOOL ENTRANCE EXAMS PREPARATION / STUDY FOCUS AND MOTIVATION / SPORTS ENHANCEMENT / NIGHTMARES / SCHOOL ISSUES / SIBLING RIVALRY

Hypnotherapy is a safe relaxation which allows children and teenagers to release deep rooted negative beliefs which may have been picked up from television, media, school or family. These bad feelings can manifest in the child causing bad habits such as nail biting. Often children worry about things from the news such a robberies and murder working it up in their minds to fear of it happening to them or their family. Boys and girls from an early age are influenced by body images in the
media and begin to aspire to looking a certain way. This can mean they compare themselves to others often leaving them feeling insecure about themselves.

Added to this is exam stress, peer pressure, sibling rivalry and feeling they don’t fit within the family, this can really affect their performance and confidence. Hypnosis is a great way to get children back on track with their thinking allowing them to feel good about themselves and the enviroment they live in.

Up to the age of 5 all children are in a kind of hypnotic state where they believe what they are told as the critical filter in their mind has not developed. This means every time a child is told they are naughty it is forming part of their core belief system that will shape them for the rest of their lives. Parents do their best to be positive but there will still be some things that negatively program their children. Even older children and teens often accept what they are told as the truth.

Examples:

A granny can innocently say how a child is chubby which can set a belief of being fat in their mind that can start a life of yoyo diets or eating issues.
A teacher may tell a child they are not good at a particular mathematical sum this can knock the childs confidence with mathematics for the rest of their school life and in the end the child may struggle with maths as their self belief is so low.
A child that is constantly pushed to work harder or perform better by over keen parents can push the child into a of never being happy or satisfied with themselves for life.

Hypnotherapy allows these negative beliefs to be released allowing the child or teenager to get on with living a full and rewarding life. Almost every child can benefit from hypnotherapy.

Many children or teenagers I see have begun to develop physical issues such as tummy
pains, headaches, migraines or fatigue. Once these are checked by a
doctor and no cause is found but the symptoms remain then the aches and pains will usually be
stress or emotional based. Often during a hypnotherapy session the
root cause will not be discussed by the child but during the session I
work through a series of exercises which will put everything back into
prospective and back in place so they can feel comfortable being themselves.

One little girl I saw had tummy pains and was off school feeling sick after investigation by the GP it was found she was physically fine. The girl came for hypnotherapy and after one session she was back at school and happy singing at home playing with her sister. The session allowed her to let go of the fears she had at her new school and feel as though she fitted within her class. She was unaware before the session that this was even a problem but the worries had manifested physically in her body.

What can parents do?

Children pick up your fears and stresses so the first thing you can do is be aware that your words and actions will be influencing them on a daily basis. Be selective in the material your children see on the television, newspapers, magazines, internet and the way you react to them. Childen may appear to be unaffected by scary programmes but they may be lieing awake worrying about death, monsters, burglars or the world ending through global warming. It is common for children to be troubled by nightmares which they keep secret from everyone.

Children want to please parents and often do things they do not like just to make a parent happy, make sure you teach them to be themselves and have their own ideas about what activities they want to do. Learning to make a simple decision at an early age will teach them the skills they need to be able to make decisions as an adult and have confidence in their own opinions and choices. A simple decision on what to wear or which after school activity to do as a child will grow confidence in them to make the right decision on which property to buy and which job to take when they grow up. You learnt your parenting skills from your parents or carers some of which will have been good and other parts will not have been for your benefit so be aware not to pass on the negative traits to your children.

An 8 year old girl who came to me about anxiety turned out to be worried about burglars, when i asked her why she told me that her Mum was constantly checking the doors and windows were locked as she feared the house would be broken into. From the parents point of view checking the doors was a natural thing to do but from the childs point of view the mothers nervousness around the task had stressed the child who now no longer felt safe. It is easy to see this from this example but in everyday busy lives it is not so easy to identify.

Teach your children to cook. I believe one of the most rewarding experiences for children is cooking and it is an important life skill for their good health. If you can't cook yourself then join a class together. All children want is quality time with parents. If you have more than one child make arrangements to spend time individually with each one this will bond your relationship forever.

Examples of what not to do:

"I was made to learn an instrument as a child so you will have to get on with it as I did" You hated it so don't make them do things they hate it will cause resentment and will damage your relationship when they grow up.

"My son hates martial arts but it is good for his confidence." This will knock his confidence as he needs to do something he believes in and do it for himself not for you. Learning to be hurt by knocks and be thrown to the floor is only confidence building if the child enjoys it otherwise it is just terrifying.

"You are so talented you must carry on" Just because a child has a talent in something it is not right to push them if they really don't want to do the activity. Find something they do want to do and you will see they have other talents. Parents fears getting in the way of what is right for a child. The childs instinct is the best judge of all. Listen to your child and hear what they say.

"I always use positive language with my children I told my daughter it is not a tumour in your tummy so you can stop worrying." The child never thought it could be a tumour but now she is worrying that it was a possibility, she may lie awake thinking she might get ill.

I recommend parents have a hypnotherapy session for themselves to restore balance to their stress levels and get their mind working in a positive way to bring the best out of themselves and their children creating a harmonious home. The biggest influence on your child is yourself and how you intereact with the world and respond to life.

Common reasons for children to seek help with hypnotherapy:

Fears and Phobias
Loss of a loved one such as a Grandparent
Worries/stress ( worries of the world, enviroment, news, safety of themselves and their family)
M.E./ Fatigue symdrome
Exam/Study (Good exam memory recall and study focus)
Common entrance exam confidence
School entry exam confidence
Audition confidence
Confidence
Sports performance
Body image
Eating issues
Stress and fatigue
Bullying
Low self esteem
Peer pressure
Wanting to please parents
Sibling rivalry
Stuttering
Fears (thunderstorms)
Nail biting
Dentist fears
Bad dreams/ nightmares
Emotional issues
Anger

Testimonials:

Exam stress:
“My son’s grades have improved dramatically since the hypnotherapy and his confidence is amazing in a very pleasant way. Thank you”

Eating issue:“I am eating normally since the sessions it is a big relief to me as I feel normal and I fit in with my friends.”

M.E.:“Since the hypnotherapy I have the strength to go out with my friends and my mind is more at ease. I don’t worry about things anymore, I actually feel happy”.

Sports:
“My son’s tennis does the talking since the hypnotherapy. He is winning matches and tournaments.”

Audition: "I felt really confident during the audition and I got a place. thanks for helping my dream come true."

Confidence: "The hypnotherapy has been quite life changing as it helped me through my exams, helped me with my application for University and gave me confidence to make new friends."

Stress: "I am sleeping really well and enjoy listening to the hypnotherapy CD at bedtime instead of watching T.V. in bed which use to leave me worrying about violent things that I had seen. The bad dreams have stopped and I feel it is easier to concentrate at school. I feel really positive and I have more confidence to take part with my friends.”

Parent Stress: "Since the hypnotherapy I am a much morerelaxed parent, I am managing work better, sleeping better and the kids are responding to me well. I can see now that my reactions were stressing them. We have a much happier household. The friction between me and my husband has dissolved"

Anger: "My sons anger and frustration with us, life and sport seems to have dissolved. He is much more focussed and content infact we all are."

For more information or to make an appointment call Hypnotherapist Ailsa Frank Ascot: 01344-622185 or 07900-968775

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